How to love a horse

How much do you love your horse? Unconditionally, obviously. But what do you do to show your horse you love him? What specific things will tell your horse about your undying devotion to his well-being? 


Everyone will answer this question differently.

And after having a look at all 3 of our horses, I realized something.

I would answer this question differently based on which horse I were to talk about.


I would never show Diego the same love I show Lillen. I would never show Lillen or Diego the same love I show Brego. Lillen’s way of showing – and receiving – love, is not the same as Diego’s or Brego’s.

And it occurred to me that these differences make up so much of their personality type. It also demands a lot from me as a person; I cannot push “my” love onto them all. I have to adjust to them, and show them the love they want me to share.

Lillen is in my mind a very hands-on horse. He wants pets, scratches, he wants to be stroked, touched; he wants to feel us being there. He enjoys a good hug. He likes to give kisses, he likes to touch us back – to feel us with his oversized upper lip, to run his whiskers along the different textures of our clothing.


Diego enjoys all the same things as Lillen – but with him, I have felt that even though he enjoys it, it is not the love he wants, or need. Diego loves to look into our eyes. He will go out of his way to catch us in a corner of his box, only to lower his head, put his eyes a few centimeters away from ours… And look at us. And we will look back. God forbid we tried to say anything, or do anything but to look back.

Diego can stay like this for minutes. He will not be satisfied until we’ve dropped all of our “should be doing this” and “don’t have time for that”, and taken our time to look back at him. If you are of the spiritual type, you will read a lot into this. I take it for the thing it is. Diego wants to spend time with us. With us. Not with us as we do something else, he just simply receives love best when it’s just him, and his human.

And then there’s Brego.


Brego has been one hell of a hard horse to figure out of. He wants none of that touchy-cuddly nonsense, and what on earth are we doing when we LOOK at him the same way we look at Diego? NOTHING. We are doing NOTHING, says Brego.

I’ve tried, and I’ve really tried to find a sweet spot. Find some place he enjoyed getting scratches, or hugs, or kisses, or simple strokes or pats. But Brego wants none of that, and if you try… Oh lord, he will make you hurt. Not because he attacks you, but he doesn’t want any of that romance thing you’ve got going on, it annoys him and he wants you gone. And he is not the best at communicating this, so I think by now he’s nearly broken my nose twice, and almost slammed my front teeth through my lip a couple of times. Because I have been so caught up in this web of “I have to show him my love”, that I haven’t even noticed how he doesn’t care for that.

I think Brego would be very happy with a sturdy smack on the neck once a week. That’s all the physical contact he needs. So how do I show Brego love?


Look at that moody face! 

Lately I’ve shown Brego love by hacking him out. Just me and him, out discovering the forest. Long reins, going at a pace he enjoys, allowing him to stop and observe nature when there is something he wants to have a look at. Allowing him to take me with him, to go on an adventure together.

The feeling I get from him when I hack him out like that, is the same feel-good feeling of love Diego sends when we look deep into his eyes, or what Lillen sends when we play around with kisses and giggles. Love, in Brego’s mind, is a lot more practical than what both Lillen and Diego thinks. Brego sees our hacks as the prime time of his day, it’s our quality time together. He needs to do things, to send and receive love. He needs a job to do, he needs us to do that job together. He is a very communicative horse, but the “slow dance” of pets, kisses, hugs and looking into his soul, is nothing he finds interest in.


You never see this happy-face this happy, unless he is doing something.

So, how do you love your horse?

Do you love him the way he wants to be loved? Or do you love him the way you want to?




Adventure avaits! For Narnia! And Aslan! And no we aren’t going to let those two hobbits behind, so we have to go and pick up those two too! Alright, let’s drop the fantasy and have a look at history. We Norwegians were pretty feared as the vikings we were, and to celebrate their culture, their handcraft and their legacy, we teamed up with Iver and Matilde to be vikings for a day.


Borrekaupangen, a viking market hosted every second year. People travel from the entire country and from abroad to attend the marked with their handcrafts to sell, or to buy, or to just relax in the athmosphere. We went with our horses to ride through the narrow market in order to set the mood a little. Horses have always been important in our history, and bringing them to such an event made an impact on a lot of the attenders.

The horses did absolutely amazing, and didn’t even spook once. We encountered a lot of things we’ve never been forced to deal with before, yet the amounts of people was probably the biggest challenge (even though the horses were completely calm, so I guess it wasn’t that much of a challenge). Children of all ages, people who have never seen horses before, old people, wheelchairs and strollers – all cramming togheter in the marked to get a look at all the crafts presented. Brego even at one point had a toddler repeatedly slapping his eye, because the parents didn’t realize you need to guide a toddler to actually pet an animal. Brego handled it very well.












In the sunset

As the temperatures in Norway have been absolutely burning the past two months, none of our horses have had a very active lifestyle. Training increases the risk of overheating, sadly, and even though they spend a lot of time in their cooler stable, it doesn’t help how many cold showers you give them. Hot is hot!


So the solution has been to train more during the evening. Diego is no evening horse, and neither is Lillen, but Brego gets super excited when I bring out his tack! So I’ll take that as a hint!

Out of shape and out of balance, but we got some cute pictures in the sunset yesterday, so here you go.






Autumn sunshine

Harsh and difficult to shoot in, but oh boy is it magnificent!



DSC_0332DSC_0343Sometimes our photoshoots get quite crowded 😛



I don’t have much to write today, so I hope you enjoyed these pictures! I enjoyed shooting them atleast, even if the sunlight is very tough during autumn! Cred to my mother for being sporty and modeling along with Lillen.

The harsh sun gives the pictures such a great mood, but oh boy can the contrasts be tough to work through. And having the equipage in direct sunlight is not an easy task.